Copyright Susana Balán 2019

Susana Balán was educated in clinical psychology at the University of Buenos Aires. Under the guidance of Enrique Pichon-Rivière, the acclaimed Argentine psychoanalyst, she received further research training in social psychology and public opinion. After many years of private practice in Buenos Aires and Rio de Janeiro, since 1998 Balán has worked as a psychotherapist in New York. Balán has authored several books in Spanish and Portuguese on feminine identity and on couple relationships, with English translations. A first version of Paths was published in Spanish as Caminos by El Nuevo Extremo in Buenos Aires in 2008.

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If I am not for myself, who is for me?And, if I am only for myself, what am I?And, if not now, when?

Mishná Pirkei Avot (1:14)

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Contents

Prologue . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5

Certainties . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6

Doubts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

Findings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35

Epilogue . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66

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